I haven't talked much about the twins as far as the craziness of having two babies at once so I thought I would post for all to read and for me to remember.
When people found out I was having twins the comments where either "YEAH" or "You poor thing." Everyone talked about how hard it would be, etc, etc, etc... No one talked about how great it was. When the twins arrived things seemed to go smoothly until I realized I don't remember the first month because it was such of blur of feeding and changing diapers and putting to sleep. I did get out (I have a very good husband that helps with that) and I had a lot of support of family and friends. But I didn't take many pictures or video tape because I was always stressed about taking care of a child.
I laugh as I look back at my middle of the night feeding (I tried my best to not wake Dave). Of course I had to feed them at the same time so I would pick one up put them on the footstool of my chair, reach over and grab the other while I made sure the first didn't fall off the footstool. Then I would sit in the chair holding one and get the feeding pillow situated while still making sure number one was still on footstool. I would then get both babies on pillow, feed them, and then start to carefully put them back. One went to the footstool, I held the other while taking off pillow. I would then stand put the one I was holding back in the crib, still making sure the one on the footstool was okay. Then pick up the one on footstool and take them to changing table and change them, usually baby in crib is crying the whole time. Finish with first diaper change and put that baby in crib. Pick up other baby and do diaper change. Then go over rap up baby in blanket and sing it a song to calm them back to sleep. Lay that baby down and rap up the other crying baby and sing a song to calm them back to sleep. Then quietly walk out the door, crossing my fingers the would go to sleep. What a circus! I honestly do not know how mothers of triples, quadruples, etc do it.
The worst part about having two babies at once is when they cry you can not comfort both and that was so difficult to me. I hated leaving one behind, when I knew they needed to be loved and held just as much as the other. I hated deciding on who needed to be held first and who had to stay behind and cry. On the other side of hating it, it has taught me to tolerate crying (it is sad but most of the time it doesn't bother me when they cry, well unless it is a serious cry, there is a difference) which has in return helped the twins learn to soothe themselves or work out the problem.
The fun part is they always have someone to play with, to watch, to tease, to laugh at and to just be around. They have so much fun together and I love to watch them. Drew is the dominant one and will take everything from Lana and crawl over top of her. He is a boy through and through. He loves trucks, wheels, balls, and putting things together and taking them apart. He loves food and loves to spit and drool. Lana is definitely a girl because he loves to talk, to watch other people and read books. She has finally decided she can stand up to Drew and not let go of her toys when he tries to steal them which makes Drew so mad. Their personalities are so different and it is fun to watch them grow up together.
We are so close to being out of a very difficult stage of life with the twins. I can not wait for them to walk. They are getting so heavy and my back has been bothering me from carrying them both around the house, up and down stairs and in and out of the car. Drew is really thinking about walking, Lana doesn't have much of an interest and is a tippy toer. I just can not wait because they are just so hard to lug around.
When people found out I was having twins the comments where either "YEAH" or "You poor thing." Everyone talked about how hard it would be, etc, etc, etc... No one talked about how great it was. When the twins arrived things seemed to go smoothly until I realized I don't remember the first month because it was such of blur of feeding and changing diapers and putting to sleep. I did get out (I have a very good husband that helps with that) and I had a lot of support of family and friends. But I didn't take many pictures or video tape because I was always stressed about taking care of a child.
I laugh as I look back at my middle of the night feeding (I tried my best to not wake Dave). Of course I had to feed them at the same time so I would pick one up put them on the footstool of my chair, reach over and grab the other while I made sure the first didn't fall off the footstool. Then I would sit in the chair holding one and get the feeding pillow situated while still making sure number one was still on footstool. I would then get both babies on pillow, feed them, and then start to carefully put them back. One went to the footstool, I held the other while taking off pillow. I would then stand put the one I was holding back in the crib, still making sure the one on the footstool was okay. Then pick up the one on footstool and take them to changing table and change them, usually baby in crib is crying the whole time. Finish with first diaper change and put that baby in crib. Pick up other baby and do diaper change. Then go over rap up baby in blanket and sing it a song to calm them back to sleep. Lay that baby down and rap up the other crying baby and sing a song to calm them back to sleep. Then quietly walk out the door, crossing my fingers the would go to sleep. What a circus! I honestly do not know how mothers of triples, quadruples, etc do it.
The worst part about having two babies at once is when they cry you can not comfort both and that was so difficult to me. I hated leaving one behind, when I knew they needed to be loved and held just as much as the other. I hated deciding on who needed to be held first and who had to stay behind and cry. On the other side of hating it, it has taught me to tolerate crying (it is sad but most of the time it doesn't bother me when they cry, well unless it is a serious cry, there is a difference) which has in return helped the twins learn to soothe themselves or work out the problem.
The fun part is they always have someone to play with, to watch, to tease, to laugh at and to just be around. They have so much fun together and I love to watch them. Drew is the dominant one and will take everything from Lana and crawl over top of her. He is a boy through and through. He loves trucks, wheels, balls, and putting things together and taking them apart. He loves food and loves to spit and drool. Lana is definitely a girl because he loves to talk, to watch other people and read books. She has finally decided she can stand up to Drew and not let go of her toys when he tries to steal them which makes Drew so mad. Their personalities are so different and it is fun to watch them grow up together.
We are so close to being out of a very difficult stage of life with the twins. I can not wait for them to walk. They are getting so heavy and my back has been bothering me from carrying them both around the house, up and down stairs and in and out of the car. Drew is really thinking about walking, Lana doesn't have much of an interest and is a tippy toer. I just can not wait because they are just so hard to lug around.
There are so many other things to tell but that will end it for today. I just have to say one last thing. As difficult as it may be sometimes it is all worth it and I do not think it is as bad as others said it would be. It has drastically changed our life but I wouldn't want it any other way.
Lana is awake--got to go!
9 comments:
Hey, I LOVE the helmet! Just had to comment since I've been there, done that. Call me sometime, I miss you!
I've always been curious about twins so that was fun to read, especially the night time feeding frenzy :) I can't imagine carrying 2 around all the time - I have a hard enough time with my monster-sized son. I'm sure it's lots of fun too - double the laughs!
Reading that exhausted me. I could never have multiples without totally loosing my mind. We miss you guys! I was talking to Julie the other day and she was telling me how hard it was for you now that the twins are mobile. Hope things get easier.
The kids all look great - getting so big. Taylor looks older, like a little boy, not a toddler anymore. And the twins have to be getting close to their birthdays, right?
ha nice helmet. He looks good. I miss you. I've been begging to my mom to come to your house alone.
/That is so sweet. I can't believe they are almost 1!! Miss you guys!!
Hey wonderwoman!! Loved reading this post!! You are one amazing woman with 3 lucky kids!!
I love them! It is going to be so much fun seeing them grow up together! When you are up for it we need to arrange another Jersey meeting! Sam still talks about how much fun he had at the aquarium!
Loved reading about the twins, they are so much fun!! I love it. It is funny trying to nurse both and get them both in bed. THey are getting used to being tossed into bed while I am holding the other one, it is way tricky, but I am getting good at it! Your babies are super cute, hope everything is going good!!
Oh man they are all so adorable! I didn't even recognize Taylor in the Easter pics. You are amazing as always. I think I would have been in tears the whole time with twins.
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